A Key to Healthy Relationship

Relationship- "A beautiful way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected ".

Being deeply loved by someone can give you strength, where loving someone deeply gives you courage. Human being is a social creature & survival without any relationship is rare. Every relationship is unique. Some gives us joy, some gives us learning. Well, I believe that no relationship causes us pain. We either grow together in a relationship or learn a lesson from it, there is no loss.

People come together in a relationship for many different reasons & if you know these few basic principles, you can always keep your relationship meaningful, fulfilling and exciting, no matter if it's a Friendship, Love or General relationship.

• Maintaining a meaningful emotional connection: There is a difference between being loved and feeling loved. When you feel loved by someone, it makes you feel accepted and valued whereas, without truly emotionally connected, relation may seem stable on the surface but serves only distance between two people. So, if you truly care for someone, being emotionally available to them will make a huge difference.

• Resolve Conflicts: Many relationships suffers, when you suppress your feelings. It's not only weigh you heavy but start to worsen the relationship. The key of a strong relationship, is not to be fearful of conflict & feel safe to express things, which bother your heart & mind. Also, the use of “I” statements while communication makes indeed a great difference. For example, instead of saying, “You make me feel bad” try “I feel bad when you do that”.

• An Open & Honest communication: Good communication is a fundamental part of any relationship. When both people have same goal of the relationship and feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears, and desires, it can increase trust and strengthen the bond between them. When you experience a positive emotional connection with another person, you feel safe and happy, but when people stop communicating properly, they also stop relating well. It leads to stress and it disconnects the relationship. It may sound simplistic, but as long as you are communicating, you can always work through the problems you’re facing.

• Good Listening: When you listen to  another person attentively, it makes that person feel valued and understood. You build a deeper, stronger connection between both of you. There’s a big difference between listening and simply hearing. When you really listen, you can immediately relate on how they’re really feeling and the emotions they’re trying to communicate. Being a good listener doesn’t mean you have to agree with them or change your mind, this is important to resolve many issues in your relationship.

• Equal Efforts: If you expect to get 100%  in any relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Healthy relationships are built on compromise & equal efforts. The equality in emotion and communication exchange is indeed a key part. However, it takes work on each person’s part to make sure that there is a reasonable exchange.

• No “Winning” goal: This point directly indicates our "Ego". Sometimes this attitude brings the worst out of us , especially in case of putting efforts or taking an initiative on communication. For some people, it could be years of accumulated feelings & experience from the past relationships. It’s alright to have a strong convictions about something, but not every time you meet the same kind of person. Please try be respectful towards other's emotions also.

• Ups and Down: There are ups and downs in every relationship. You won’t always be on the same page. Sometimes you may be struggling with an issue that stresses you, and another time it may be the other person. Different people cope with stress differently and misunderstandings can rapidly turn to frustration and anger. Being responsible and sympathetic towards each others can certainly ease the tough situation.

• Forgiveness is a Virtue: Life stresses can make us short tempered. After all, we are human being & tend to have stress, anger, and frustration. Sometime it seems easier to vent  out on other person. Fighting  might initially feel like a release, but it slowly poisons your relationship. So, if you’re willing to ask for a forgiveness, it will certainly reward you a forgiveness from others as well.

• If tempers flare, take a break:Take a few minutes to relieve stress and calm down before you say or do something you’ll regret later. Never forget that you’re arguing with the person you love, with whom you have shared  all  the good moments. Examine the point at which you began to drift apart,  try to resolve the issues in a pause and shine up with a new start together. 

• Be Open to Change: Change is inevitable in life, and it will happen if you go for it or fight for it. Flexibility is essential to adapt the changes in any relationship. Accept the little changes for each other & allow yourself to grow together through thick & thin.

• Be Mindful to let it go:  It's really tough when you can’t come to an agreement. It takes much efforts from both of the sides to resolve an issue. If a relationship is going nowhere even after your best shot, be mindful to accept the truth and move on. 

All relationships in our life go through ups and downs and need patience and willingness to adapt the changes. Whether your relationship is just starting or you’ve been together for years, these steps can always help you to build a healthy relationship. 

Always remember, the best relationships of your life always requires commitment and efforts. If you have got an image  in your mind of someone's  while reading this article, means they are still important to you. Identify and fix the problem in your relationship. Life is too short to loose  a beautiful relation & regret on it later.

 Have a Blissful relationships!